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The baby world enters the civilized world, they must destroy the children most joyful matter, but issues the prohibition rule uninterruptedly, the formulation rule, takes the precautionary measure: Ever does not permit to suck the finger, does not permit to bump the bird, does not permit to hold one's nose, does not permit to play the body waste, does not permit to shout randomly, to does not permit to scribble doodles, does not permit to lie, does not permit the burglary, does not permit, and so on, is all kinds of gates simply, endures endures extremely. But to the child, these civilized rules is unfeeling, makes one accept with difficulty, unbelievable: One day, mother the pleasantly warm nipple did not have suddenly, replaces it is a hard cup; One day, the warm comfortable diaper did not have suddenly, what replaces is an icy trough; One day, mother then announced suddenly that henceforth any matter any matter no longer has taken care of everything by mother, you must manage itself. These are suddenly come so suddenly, so that it gives children's feeling, likely is suddenly from one warm comfortable, has the natural dependence world, arrived at a wild world to be ordinary, had no place to complain or seek help wretchedly, not depended on lonely.

However, the human society entrusts with parents' responsibility is actually must undertake the disappointment the responsibility. Therefore, to enable own roll play most to have the result,kids clothing, most conforms with the ideal, simultaneously as for does not draw on by the disappointment the hate, makes a parents' quite arduous duty, how is must study to grasp the disappointed opportunity, is the disappointed degree, in brief, how needs to study teaches child's principle.

Teaches the child really has the so-called principle? Definitely has. One of them, is must be clear about the domain which the division teaches.

Parents when raise child how to determine teaches domain? Our principle is: Child's performance may divide into two parts generally, a part is an emotion, a part is a behavior. Correct teaches the way is only limits to the behavior, does not limit to the emotion. Therefore, teaches the most important principle is must sets up boundary stone between the behavior and the emotion.

The majority teaches the question to include two parts: Inappropriate emotion and not correct behavior. We should adopt the different processing mode to the different part. Says roughly, to child's inappropriate emotion, we only need refer to him, and had the expression to be possible; But to not the correct behavior, we must perform to unblock, and carries on the limit. Sometimes, we only need point out the child does not work as the sentiment, sufficiently cleans the child innermost feelings the haze, causes it as for further not to display not the correct behavior.

Saturday mother accompanied schoolmate who outside areas came in outside to play one all day. After evening comes back, sees the son not to be specially happy,baby doll, said to him: Evidently, you are angry probably very much today.

I am mad seriously, the son responds.

You had anger at heart, mother guide to say.

Son reply: Certainly is!

Mother disguises not clearly: Whose gas are you living.

The son probably has been mad: Yes, is you!

Mother said calm: You said that listens to me.

The son starts to divulge said: You accompany dawn Aunt Yan to play, but does not lead me to go.

Mother has understood: Is this matter lets you be angry. I dare to make a bet, you at heart certainly in whisper: Mother usually said that she loves me, originally loves dawn Aunt Yan.

The son definitely said: Yes.

Mother is stroking son's head: Sometimes you will have this kind of feeling.

The son said: Certainly.

Mother said: Clever child, mother, although loves dawn Aunt Yan, but mother loves you.

Through such comforting,（Related ArticlesLast night strange dream）, mother caused the child to divulge her emotion obviously, handled own matter happily again. But, in involves not the correct behavior in the situation, is the parents, must adopt the decisive limit.

Inside four year-old son does want to break the small goldfish's belly,baby girl dresses, actually has a look is any appearance. Mother has discovered that has not attacked his curiosity, but has stopped his behavior by the affirmative expression: I knew that inside you want to have a look are any appearance, but its belly is any appearance originally, is any appearance. Comes, we look for the picture, has a look to have any picture to draw inside goldfish's belly is any appearance.

On five year-old daughter bedroom's wall the picture villain, the mother has been discovering, her initial response is hits her, but looks that daughter's appearance that fears her, causes her not to be cruel enough starts, then changed a statement: The pistil pistil, the wall not uses for the place which paints pictures, the paper only then uses for to paint pictures. Comes, for you several papers. The mother starts to scour the wall, the pistil pistil is very at heart embarrassed, said to the mother: The mother, sorry.

Thus, the child the behavior which painted pictures on the wall obtained effective stopping, but this has not been the impulsion which the child painted pictures is restricted